Males commit suicide 2.5 times more than women because we often feel that we have to deal with our issues on our own. We have body image issues, but would never admit to feeling insecure about the way we look because we’ve been conditioned to hide those feelings or be teased about them if we share them. We stress about work and paying the bills but then fight with our spouses because we’re not emotionally available to discuss this stress. This is the reality that many men face, but don’t often talk about. I’m here to help change that.
I was always taught that men don’t talk about their feelings. If you’re a certain age, you were probably taught that too. We’re supposed to deal with our issues on our own. We don’t admit when things bother us and even if did, we’d never complain about it because what is that going to solve?
Let’s get this out of the way. Men have issues too and we can’t deal with them all on our own. If you’re the average guy, you spend a little too much time working a job you probably don’t care too much about, then come home to rambunctious children, and a wife you barely get along with at times. You’ve just accepted that life “is what it is” and there’s nothing you can do to change it. I get it. Change is hard. But we have to stop settling for being unhappy in life.
I’m here to help you commit to making real, tangible changes in your life. I once heard someone say, “The worst mistake I’ve ever made in life is saying one day.” I spent too much of my life saying one day. When I quit saying one day and began saying today, my life immediately changed. No longer did I feel that I couldn’t control how I interacted with people. No longer did I feel stuck in a job I didn’t enjoy. I began to see how what happened in my life was and is a direct result of the effort and intention I put into it.
If you’re struggling with anxiety, stress, or feeling overwhelmed with life, maybe it’s time to talk to someone? I know you’re probably thinking. “Hey man, life gets tough sometimes, but that’s just how it is.” It doesn’t have to be like that. If you’re ready to see how you can make changes in your life, counseling can help you do that. Counseling is more than just talking to someone about your problems. It’s about finding the strength in yourself to make the changes you want to make to live your best life.
If you want to improve your relationship with your wife, we’ll help you do that. Not by taking sides, but by helping you figure out how to work through your issues rather than getting stuck in the same fights all the time. If you’re tired of a job you don’t like, but feel like you can’t leave, we’ll challenge you on your priorities and explore how to continue paying your bills, but see what real happiness at work would look like for you. If you’re ready to take control of your life but don’t know-how, we’ll teach you the skills you need to do that. I know you’re a man and can take care of yourself, but if you decide you want some help, we’re here for you.
Rodney Long Jr., MSSA, LISW ~ The Cole Center